九大妙招：要鼓励他们勤于进行思考

　　6 Make the celebrity culture work for you and them--keep abreast of their current heroes. If they don't know much about them, do some research together to see what has helped them become successful and stay motivated. Magazines and the Internet are full of interviews and stories about how famous people " made it". You can then refer back to this meaningful wisdom when the going gets tough. For example:" David Beckham didn't get where he is today by staying up all night playing computer games," or" Kylie Minogue is so attractive because she smiles all the time."

　　让明星文化为你和孩子们发挥作用——了解他们当前心目中的英雄人物是哪些。如果他们不太了解这些人物，那你就与孩子们一起做些调查，看看是什么帮助这些明星成功并时刻让自己获得激励。杂志和因特网充满名人如“成功”的访问记和报道。当与孩子的交流出现问题时，可以回想一下并利用这些有用的智慧：比如“如果戴维-贝克汉姆整个晚上都玩

　　7 Encourage them to be self-reflective when they get it right -- help them to think about the hows and whys. Reminding them of things they have done well in the past may also help. For example:"You seemed to have no trouble getting down to that essay. I wonder why it was easier for you to do your homework this week?" Or:" Do you remember during the exams last term, you found thinking positively and not panicking really seemed to help you?"

　　当孩子做对了，要鼓励他们进行思考——帮助他们想一想是怎样和为什么把事情做得很好的。让他们回忆过去做好的事情，这样做也有益。比如：“你写那篇文章似乎并不费劲。而且你做这礼拜的作业也更为容易?”或者“你还记得上学期考试时你发现处事乐观、积极，考场上镇静不慌确实对你很有帮助吗?”