16. Develop a strong sense of self by dissing colleges that reject you. Happy people have ``a more durable sense of self and aren't as buffeted by outside events," writes Sonja Lyubomirsky of the University of California-Riverside. When bad things happen, don't take it personally. This is how the most successful business people bounce back quickly from setback.

　　第十六，被拒后应该坦然以对。要自己定义自己，不要用外在指标定义自己。

　　17. Apply to Harvard as a transfer student. Sure people have wild success after going to an Ivy League school but this success is no more grand than that of the people who applied and got rejected. All people who apply to Ivy League schools seem to have similar high self-confidenceផand ambition, even if they don't get in, according to a study by Kreuger.

　　第十七，以转校生的身份申请哈佛。人们从常春藤名校毕业无疑会取得巨大的成功，但是那些申请后被拒的学生也不差。所有申请常春藤名校的人都有同样的自信和野心，即使不能入校就读。

　　18. Get rid of your perfectionist streak. It is rewarded in college, but it leads to insane job stress and an inability to feel satisfied with your work. And for all of you still stuck on number 6, about ditching the law school applications: The Utah Bar Journal says that lawyers are disproportionately perfectionists.

　　第十八，不要过分追求完美，不要给自己不必要的压力。生活不止是工作，学习，它还有很多很多。

　　19. Work your way though college. Getting involved in student organizations counts, and so does feeding children in Sierra Leone or sweeping floors in the chemistry building. Each experience you have can grow into something bigger. Albert was an orientation leader last year, and she turned that experience into a full-time summer job that morphed into a position managing 130 orientation leaders. A great bullet on the resume for a junior in college.

　　第十九，要靠打工读完大学，积累工作经验。这很重要，大部分中国学生做不到，甚至认为打工没有必要，其实打过工的人才会真正珍惜生活。

　　20. Make to do lists. You can't achieve dreams if you don't have a plan to get there.

　　第二十，把你的目标列成表，因为你没有计划就不可能成功。不要整天没事干老胡思乱想，只有真正的行动才能拯救你！