http://www.sina.com.cn 2009年06月24日 16:14
When you're dating a guy, you can forgive him for some indiscretions, but it's nearly impossible to turn the other cheek if he strays. Well, Cosmo did some investigating to ascertain the traits that may make men more likely to cheat, and some of our findings were surprising eye-openers。
Cheat Predictor #1 第一类特征：
Was he spoiled as a kid? 他是个惯坏的孩子吗？
Do his parents tend to baby him and help him out of financial jams?
Has he ever bragged about cheating on an exam or paying someone to write a paper for him in college?
If your man seems to have sailed through life without ever hitting the rough waters that rock the rest of us, beware. Privileged chaps tend to suffer from a sense of entitlement (read: bratty-boy syndrome)， so he may believe that the rules don't apply to him. He's so used to getting what he wants, why should he stop now?
Pay attention to how he copes when he's confronted with any bad behavior on his part. Does he regret getting caught forwarding your racy emails to his friends but feel no guilt for doing it in the first place? Does he blame others when he screws up rather than take responsibility himself? If he can't see how his actions affect others, he's not likely to say, "Whoa, what about my girlfriend?" when temptation strikes。
Cheat Predictor #2 第二类特征：
Does he work mostly with women? 他大多数情况下与女性一起工作吗？
Is he always logging in late hours, whether it be at the office, at dinner with clients or on business trips? 他经常很晚才回来吗？他是在办公室，与客户用餐还是因公外出在路上？
Does he make a lot of money? 他挣很多钱吗？
Studies show that when men cheat, it's most often with a work colleague. Not only are people with similar interests side by side on a daily basis, but the time they spend together is usually when they're most energetic and look their best。
Unfortunately, the bigger his wallet, the more likely your busy bee is to cozy up with an office buddy. Evolution has wired men to understand that the better they are at providing, the more appealing they are to women. Since testosterone is what drives men's quest for power, if a guy has achieved status, he's more likely to act on his desires。
If he sounds happy that you call during the day, invites you to his office and takes you to company parties, you're most likely his one and only partner. It's when he acts more secretive about his work than a CIA agent that he's probably taking on after-hours clients。
Cheat Predictor #3 第三类特征：
Can he talk his way out of anything (parking tickets, rolling into work late)？ 他能够就任何话题风趣地扯淡吗？(比如停车单据，加班)
Does he make an effort to charm everyone--your coworkers, your older sister, a saleswoman? 他在尽力向每个人展现自己的魅力吗？——不管是你的同事、你的姐姐还是售货员？
When you go to parties, does he insist on making the rounds?
Charmers meet a lot of women and win them over easily. So even if his intentions aren't more than friendship, they might be willing to move beyond friendship, and that's hard to resist。
To determine if your charmer might become a two-timer, watch how he interacts with you in social settings. A guy who wants to play with other partners may brush you off when chatting with a new female friend or get noticeably more uncomfortable with PDAs when other women are around。
Cheat Predictor #4 第四类特征：
Does he usually hang out with a crew of mostly single guys? 他经常和一群单身的男性在一起吗？
Do his friends encourage him to join them in just-for-men activities? 他的同性朋友鼓励他参加只有男性的活动和聚会吗？
Do his pals have problems staying in relationships? 他的同性朋友在两性关系的处理上有问题吗？
A recent study of 37,000 men and women showed that when guys see those around them splitting from their significant others, it tends to encourage them to do the same。
You want to believe that his buddies would have enough sense to stop your guy from canoodling with some cute club-hopper, but they won't always be on your side. If a coupled-up guy's friends are all looking to get lucky, they may not only tease him about being tied down but also actually dare him to cheat. At the very least, they'll cover for him。
Still, there's no need to ban him from hanging out with the bachelors if he's able to strike the right balance between his buddies and you. He should include you sometimes when he meets up with friends. Although your fella's frat pack might seem like the enemy, chumming it up with the guys (fake fondness if you have to) can do wonders for your relationship. Once you've earned their respect, they're much less likely to push your partner into prowling。