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　　Anyone who's experienced heartbreak knows that there's no magic formula for making someone fall in love with you. (Or in some cases, back in love with you。). However, you can up your chances of making that special lady swoon by following a few of these simple tips。

　　任何经历过伤心失恋的人都知道，当一个人不爱你的时候没有任何方法可以挽回她的芳心。(或在某些情况下，她会回心转意。)不过，现在只要按照下面20条黄金法则做你就有机会让心爱的人为你着迷，赢得她的芳心！

　　1) Be All Ears   学会做他的听众而不是建议者

　　Women like to work out their problems. Offer a bended ear and fight the urge to provide a solution or rush her to the point. She just wants you to listen while she vents, explains or just muses。

　　2) Compliment Her  要学会让她高兴

　　A lot of women put a lot of effort into looking nice for their date. Offer a flattering remark on her time well spent and she will be delighted that you noticed。

　　3) Throw a Pep Rally   做她的忠实粉丝，尊重他的选择

　　Act as her cheerleader on life's sidelines. Support her choices, feelings, successes and failures and she will appreciate (and lean on) her biggest fan。

　　4) Remember that Chivalry Is Not Dead       要有绅士分度

　　Man the door, pull the chair and wait for her to be seated. Treating her like a lady never goes out of style。

　　5) Focus All Eyes on Her     注视着她的眼睛，让她感觉到你的关注

　　Focus on her with attention and interest. Extracurricular gazing makes you look bored and rude。

　　6) Leave a Message  约会前发短信给她

　　Whether it's your first date or the tenth, leave a message asserting how much you enjoyed your time with her and how you can't wait to see her again。

　　7) Growing Love 培养感情

　　Bring or send her flowers because it's Tuesday or for no reason at all. Better yet, send them to work to make her feel beautiful and appreciated。

　　8) Be Mr. Clean  要保持干净卫生

　　You may not know it, but every time she picks up your wet towel or cleans beard clippings from the sink, the romance wears off。

　　9) Play the Music Man  表现出对音乐的热爱

　　Learn how to play the guitar or hone your singing voice. Ladies melt over the simultaneous vulnerability and bad boy coolness of confident rock stars. No musical talent? Demonstrate passion in a hobby that you love。

　　10) Clown Around  要有幽默感

　　Hone your funny bone to encourage her to feel comfortable, let loose and get silly。

　　11) Drop It Like Its Hot  不要为小事而繁琐

　　Shrug off the small things and let it go. A diffusing attitude and cool demeanor is always a welcome response to pending crisis。

　　12) Keep it All In The Family  融入她的交际圈

　　Woo her friends and family, too. Her circle will be the first to comment on your worthiness of her attention。

　　13) Take the Consultative Approach  遇事要和她协商

　　Seek her advice, even if you don't really need it. Consulting her shows that you appreciate her opinion and that she is useful and comforting。

　　14) Zip It  尽量做她生活圈内的人

　　If you aren't complimenting members of her inner circle, zip it. It's an instant turnoff to hear a negative opinion about those that have been in her life long before you came along。

　　15) Get Lost  给双方足够的空间

　　While prioritizing her in your life is important, she can't be the only thing going on. Spend time with others and do your own thing to make the heart grow fonder。

　　16) Slow It Down  创造浪漫的气氛

　　Court her with a slow dance whenever possible. While lovely at cousin Ed's wedding or at a jazz club on Friday night, surprise her with a turn around the kitchen during macaroni and cheese for impromptu romance。

　　17) Timing is Everything   一定要守时

　　Arrive on time for your date. Although traffic and miscalculations can be forgiven, consistently showing up late sends the signal that her time isn't as important as yours。

　　18) Remember that Family Matters 做个顾家的人

　　Introducing your new ladylove to your family will demonstrate how important she is in your life. The way you treat your family presents a good gauge of what she can expect in your courtship。

　　19) Surprise!     时时给她惊喜

　　Catch her unaware with that fetching coat she has been eyeing, a message on her work voicemail or a note in her bag lunch to keep her guessing and excited。

　　20) Soup for the Soul    生病了要多关心照顾她

　　Take care of her when she is under the weather with a care package of cough drops, chicken soup, or a get well note. She may not feel (or look) her best, but these moments will show that you are in it to win it。