约会不总是轻而易举。我们时常经历一些这样的约会：事先看起来应该有戏，事后却发现失败得一塌糊涂。怎么会这样呢？下面有一些基于星座的原因

　　Dating isn’t always easy. Sometimes we’ve experienced dates that, beforehand, seemed as though they'd be a success, only to find them a complete failure later. Why does this happen? Here are some reasons why a date could go awry based on your sign, and how to prevent them from happening again。

　　约会不总是轻而易举。我们时常经历一些这样的约会：事先看起来应该有戏，事后却发现失败得一塌糊涂。怎么会这样呢？下面有一些基于星座的原因，让你知道为什么约会走上了歧途，以及如何预防这种事情再次发生。

　　Aries: Remember that the world doesn’t revolve around you, Aries. Aries can often think about themselves first, after all, they rule the first house of “self”. Be sure to find out what your sweetie wants, too。

　　白羊座：白羊们要记住，世界不是围着你转。白羊座的人可能通常先想到自己，毕竟，你们是最“自我”的一类。但也一定要弄清楚你的情人想要什么。

　　Taurus: Need to know where your partner is all the time or what they’re doing can easily put you on damage control. When you get into a new relationship or begin dating someone, love without being possessive。

　　金牛座：想要时刻知道你的对象在哪里或者在做什么，会轻易让你时刻警惕着以防自己受伤。当你处于一段新的恋情或者开始约会某人时，用心去爱，但别想着占有。

　　Gemini: You love to do the talking, but let your sweetie share some words, too. Be an active listener on your next date. Keep eye contact with them at all times, be sure to be empathetic and keep your focus on THEIR story。

　　双子座：你很爱说，但也要让你的情人 Don’t Be A Dating Disaster! 说上几句。下次约会时一定要做一个积极的聆听者。始终保持眼神交流，一定要投入感情，而且把注意力集中在“他们”的故事上。

　　Cancer: Watch your mood swings around your sweetie, Cancer, especially on dates. Be careful you don’t flip a switch

　　at that restaurant or even worse do it to your server. Sometimes it can be more embarrassing to see your date be rude to your server than to you even. Watch your emotional energy and keep it in check especially in public!

　　巨蟹座：巨蟹们，有情人相伴时一定要注意自己的情绪波动，尤其是约会时。一定不要在餐馆闹情绪，更不要冲服务员发火。有时候，看到自己的伴侣对服务员粗鲁甚至比对自己粗鲁更难堪。注意自己的情绪，并及时控制，尤其是在公众场合！

　　Leo: You have a great sense of selfesteem, but don’t let your confidence turn to cockiness. Too many comments that are self-serving could make you seem like you’re implying you’re better than average. Keep it real, home slice! Your sweetie will prefer a more humble nature。

　　狮子座：你有很强的自尊心，但不要让你的自信变成自大。太多褒扬自己的话会让你看上去是在暗示你自己比普通人强。现实点吧，朋友！你的情人会喜欢更加谦卑的个性。

　　Virgo: You like everything to be perfect, but when you’re on a date, try not to nit-pick

　　over every single thing to your waiter or sweetie. A dirty spoon or a fly in your soup are good reasons to call over your server. But to fuss over every little thing will most definitely be a turn off to your date。

　　处女座：你希望所有事都完美无缺，不过，当你约会时，注意不要什么事都对服务员或者你的情人进行挑剔。勺子脏或者汤里有只苍蝇都是可以把服务员召唤过来的理由，但是对所有事都吹毛求疵的话，一定以及肯定会让你的情人兴趣索然。

　　Libra: Avoid name-dropping! Scales love expensive and beautiful things. Even people who are associated with beauty and wealth can be a conversation of delight for glamorous Libra. Just try not to name-drop those jeans or that celebrity you know in every conversation。

　　天秤座：别借别人来抬高自己！天秤们喜欢昂贵美丽的事物，就连那些和美丽、富足扯上关系的人都可以成为迷人的天秤座兴致勃勃谈论的话题。试着不要每次谈话都要提到那些牛仔裤或你认识的那个名人来抬高自己。

　　Scorpio: You love passion in a relationship, and that’s why sometimes you can move too fast. When you first meet a guy or girl, don’t rush into intimacy. Rein that sexual energy in, folks! And get to know the person。

　　天蝎座：你喜欢恋情里有激情，这就是为什么有时候你可能进展得太快的原因。当你第一次约见某个男子或女子的时候，不要急于亲热。把性活力控制在体内，伙计们！要试着了解对方。

　　Sagittarius: Don’t be flighty! You’re truly a social butterfly and love to scatter your energy everywhere. Don’t flake out on plans with your sweetie or a new date. This will most definitely be a turn-off because it will show you aren’t reliable。

　　射手座：不要举止轻浮！你的确是个社交花蝴蝶，喜欢到处挥洒自己的活力。在计划你和情人或新的约会对象的安排时，不要玩得太过了。这百分百会让他们兴趣索然，因为这种举动表明你不可靠。

　　Capricorn: You’re very responsible, Capricorn. You want everything to be in working order all the time and that can lead to an excessive amount of over explaining and even controlling situations. We realize you’re being overly efficient, but half the time most people will tune out the information they don’t need, so you’re just wasting your breath. Keep it simple!

　　摩羯座：魔羯，你很负责。你期望所有事情都时刻正常运转，而这会让你进入一而再再而三地过度解释甚至过度控制的处境。我们发现，你说话的效率太高了，但有一半时间，大多数人会忽略他们不需要的信息，所以，你只是白费唇舌而已。说话要简短！

　　Aquarius: You can easily be wrapped up in causes for a higher good, because you’re ruled by the planet that rules technology! When you’re on date, don’t open that PETA email that just popped up on your blackberry. Your sweetie will begin to think your messages are more important than them. Try to live in the moment, and leave your iphone or blackberry out of the picture for a bit。

　　水瓶座：你会很轻易就武装上更好的装备，因为控制着你的星球也控制着科技！约会时，不要打开黑莓手机里刚冒出来的那封超大邮件。你的情人会开始认为你收到的信息比他/ 她更重要。试着珍惜约会的每一分钟，不要把你的苹果手机或黑莓手机牵扯进来。

　　Pisces: Your dreamy nature easily allows you to be in your own little world. Sometimes your sweetie or crush could wonder if you’re even listening. When you’re on a new date or out with your sweetie, try to snap into reality. And be careful of wearing your heart on your sleeve too quickly in relationships。

　　双鱼座：你爱幻想的本质很容易就让你沉迷于自己的小世界。有时候，你的情人或迷恋你的人会猜想你是否在听他们说话。当你开始一次新的约会或与情人外出时，试着快速融入现实世界。还要注意，谈恋爱时，不要很快就表明自己的感情。

　　Vocabulary:

　　1. damage control: An effort to minimize or curtail damage or loss. 损害管制。

　　2. mood swing: 情绪波动。

　　3. flip a switch: 拨开关。文中形容情绪变化得快。

　　4. home slice: A good friend。

　　5. nit-pick: 挑剔，吹毛求疵。

　　6. name-drop: To mention casually the names of illustrious or famous people in order to imply that one is on familiar terms with them, intended as a means of selfpromotion. 借名流权贵来抬高自己。

　　7. rein v . 驾驭，控制。

　　8. flighty  a. 充满幻想的，轻浮的。

　　9. flake out: Go crazy; also, cause someone to go crazy。

　　10. wear your heart on your sleeve: Display one’s emotions openly。