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Optimists are right. So are pessimists.It’s up to you to choose which you will be.
Life should be a dance, not a race.
Life’s battles don’t always go to the stronger man. But sooner or later the man who wins is the man who thinks he can.
Champions know that success is inevitable; that there is no such thing as failure, only feedback. They know that the best way to forecast the future is to create it.
Michael J. Gelb
Dialogue 1: Two Types of Person
There was a wise man sitting outside his village. A traveler came up and asked him.
“What kind of people live in this village, because I am looking to move from my present one?”The wise man asked,“What kind of people liveswheresyou want to move from?”
The man said,“They are mean, cruel, and rude.”
The wise man replied,“The same kind of people live in this village too.”
After some time another traveler came by and asked the same question and the wise man asked him“What kind of people liveswheresyou want to move from?”And the traveler replied,“The people are very kind, courteous, polite and good.”
The wise man said,“You will find the same kind of people here too.”
The lesson is that we see the world not the way it is but the way we are.
Dialogue 2: Wealth is All in One’s Point of View
One day, a wealthy man took his son on a trip to the country so he could have his son see how poor country people were. They stayed one day and one night in the a very humble farm house At the end of the trip and back home, the father asked the son:“What did you think of the trip?”
The son replied:“Very nice, Dad.”
Father: Did you notice how poor they were?
Father: What did you learn?
Son: I learned that we have one dog in the house and they have four. I learned that we have a fountain in the garden and they have a stream that has no end. I learned that we have imported lamps in the garden; they have the stars. I learned that our garden goes to the edge of our property, they have the entire horizon as their back yard.
At the end of the son’s reply the father was speechless. His son added:“Thank you dad for showing me how poor we really are.”
A little boy got angry with his mother and shouted at her,“I hate you, I hate you.”For fear of being reprimanded, he ran out of the house. He went up to the mountains and shouted,“I hate you, I hate you,”and back came the echo“I hate you, I hate you.”This was the first time that he had heard an echo. He got scared, went to his mother for protection and said there was a bad boy in the valley who shouted“I hate you, I hate you.”The mother understood the problem and asked her son to go back to the mountain and shout,“I love you, I love you.”And back came the echo. That taught the little boy a lesson that our life is like an echo; we get back what we give.
Story-2: Devil in Mind(心中的魔鬼)
Some years back, a brave young boy in a small town was challenged by his friends to fix a nail in a tree situated in the middle of a burial ground at midnight. It was rumoured that the ghost would kill anyone who ventured to go near the tree at nighttime. The young boy accepted the challenge and wentsintosthe graveyard as his friends watched him from outside. After a while, the friends heard a loud cry and the young boy never returned back. Next morning he was found dead near the tree and everyone was of the opinion that the ghost had struck the boy. However, closer examination revealed that the boy’s shirt was torn. The fact was that in his anxiety and fear, he had nailed one end of his shirt by oversight. While he tried to jump from the tree, his shirt, nailed to the tree, had pulled him back. Fearing that it was a ghost-hit the boy had died of shock.
The lesson is that if you think you are doomed, you will be doomed.
Story-3: The Optimist(乐观主义者)
There is a story of identical twins. One was ahope-filled optimist.“Everything is coming up roses!”he would say. The other twin was a sad and hopeless pessimist.“Everybody is in despair!”he would claim. The worried parents of the boys brought them to the local psychologist. He suggested to the parents a plan to balance the twins- personalities.“On their next birthday, put them in separate rooms to open their gifts. Give the pessimist the best toys you can afford, and give the optimist a box of manure.”The parents followed these instructions and carefully observed the results.
When they peeked in on the pessimist, they heard him audibly complaining,“I dont like the color of this computer. I know someone who’s got a bigger toy car than this . . .”
Tiptoeing across the corridor, the parents peeked in and saw their little optimist gleefully throwing the manure up in the air. He was giggling.“You can’t fool me!swheresthere’s this much manure, there’s gotta be a pony!”
Our subconscious is an odd place: it can’t tell the difference between what we think and what we do. It tends to believe whatever we tell it. It listens to our thoughts and takes its cues from them, so it’s tremendously important that we take control of what we feedsintosit. It takes practice to monitor our own thoughts, but after a while, it’s fairly easy to change an“I cant”into an“I can”. So always think positively about the world.
Our heads are filled with background noise. We talk to ourselves, we think about other things when our attention should be focused on the task at hand, and we worry incessantly. By some estimates, the human brain talks an average of 400 to 600 words to itself every single minute. And often, what we tell ourselves is negative; we’d be insulted and hurt if someone else said such things about us. Our inner critic-the nasty little voice in our head riding us down-can get pretty brutal:
“I can’t do it.”
“I’m a failure.”
“They don’t really like me.”
“Just give up.”
Many of us hear these thoughts over and over again, day after day. It can add up to a tremendous attack on self-esteem and confidence. Imagineshavingsyour boss talk to you like that all day. You’d feel pretty demoralized and angry by the day’s end.
Fortunately, we can train ourselves to change negative messagessintospositive thoughts. It may sometimes seem as if you can’t control that inner voice, but remember, it’s your brain! You can conquer it eventually. Eradicate negative thoughts, we can learn to substitute healthier, empowering thoughts for many of our defeatist messages. If you make positive thinking a habit, you’ll find there isn’t much room left for the gloomy attitude.
So it’s time for you to get rid of the following self-distructive statements:
“I’m not innovative”
“The world is an unhappy place”
“All the good people are already in relationships”
“If I fall in love, I know I will get hurt again”
“I hate this country”
Now take up self-affirming statements:
“I’m a competent person.”
“I’m worth loving andshavingsas a friend.”
“I’m growing and improving.”
“I’m empathic and supportive.”
“I can accept my past and can also let it go.”
“I can forgive myself and those who have hurt me.”
“I can apologize if I’m wrong.”
SELF-TEST自测题1. I believe others cause my feelings.
2. I’m always telling myself I“should”do this or that.
3. I constantly criticize myself.
4. I think I must do everything perfectly or not at all.
5. I’m always apologizing for one thing or another.
6. I feel like I’m carrying the world on my shoulders.
7. I’m really hard on myself when I make mistakes.
8. I bend over backwards to please others.
9. I“scare myselfsintosaction by imagining horrible things that will happen if I don’t do something.
10. I tend to look on the negative side of things. My glass of water is always half empty instead of half full.
11. It’s hard for me to forgive and forget. If someone hurts me, I tend to cling to that feeling.
12. I often feel helpless. There are so many things in life I can’t do.Give yourself one point for each“true”answer on the test. # =
# Points Results
1-3: You generally feel good about yourself. Keep up our positive way of thinking.
4-6: The mental miseries may be gaining on you. Take time to renew your positive traits.
7-12: Challenge yourself to change your way of thinking.
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