25种杀手锏提升个人自信：说话慢些

　　11. Speak slowly. 说话慢些。

　　Such a simple thing, but it can have a big difference in how others perceive you. A person in authority, with authority, speaks slowly. It shows confidence. A person who feels that he isn't worth listening to will speak quickly, because he doesn't want to keep others waiting on something not worthy of listening to. Even if you don't feel the confidence of someone who speaks slowly, try doing it a few times. It will make you feel more confident. Of course, don't take it to an extreme, but just don't sound rushed either.

　　很简单的事情，但对于别人如何理解你时，就有很大的区别了。领导和有权威的人说话比较慢，这显示出一种自信。那些觉得自己的话不值得听的人说话会很快，因为他们不想让别人等着听些没有价值的东西。即使你没有觉得那些说话慢的人自信，你也试几次，它会让人更加自信。当然也不要说得过慢，只要不像是在急冲冲的毫无考虑地说话就可以了。

　　12. Stand tall. 昂首站着。

　　I have horrible posture, so it will sound hypocritical for me to give this advice, but I know it works because I try it often. When I remind myself to stand tall and straight, I feel better about myself. I imagine that a rope is pulling the top of my head toward the sky, and the rest of my body straightens accordingly. As an aside, people who stand tall and confident are more attractive. That's a good thing any day, in my book.

　　我的站姿很难看，所以我给这种建设显得有些假惺惺日，但我知道它对增强自信有作用，我常常尝试。当我告诉自己站得直直的，昂起头来，自我感觉会好很多。我想象有一根绳子把我的头往上吊着，我身体的其它部分就跟着直了起来。另外，昂首挺胸站着的人更迷人。在我的书里，这无论在什么时候都一件好事情。

　　13. Increase competence. 增强能力。

　　How do you feel more competent? By becoming more competent. And how do you do that? By studying and practicing. Just do small bits at a time. If you want to be a more competent writer, for example, don't try to tackle the entire profession of writing all at once. Just begin to write more. Journal, blog, write short stories, do some freelance writing. The more you write, the better you'll be. Set aside 30 minutes a day to write (for example), and the practice will increase your competence.

　　如何才能让觉得自己能干呢？变得更能干。如何才能做到那一点？每次一点点，不继的学习和练习。比如，如果你想成为一个出色的作家，不要一次性就想全面应对那些专业写作问题，只要多写一点，多在杂志、博客上写些短小的故事，自由写作。你写得越多，就会写得越好。比如，每

　　14. Set a small goal and achieve it. 设定小的目标，然后去实现它。

　　People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon, and then when they fail, they get discouraged. Instead, shoot for something much more achievable. Set a goal you know you can achieve, and then achieve it. You'll feel good about that. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better you'll be at it, and the better you'll feel. Soon you'll be setting bigger (but still achievable) goals and achieving those too.

　　人们总是想飞向月球，当他们失败后，就会感觉到挫折，人们在这里犯了个错误。相反的，人们应该争取那些更容易完成的事情。设定一个你知道你可以完成的目标，然后完成它，你会因此感觉良好。接着设定另一个小目标并完成它。你完成的小目标越多，你在这方面就越强，你的感觉也会越好。后来，你会设定更大的目标(但仍是可以达到的)并去达到它们。

　　15. Change a small habit. 改变一点小习惯。

　　Not a big one, like quitting smoking. Just a small one, like writing things down. Or waking up 10 minutes earlier. Or drinking a glass of water when you wake up. Something small that you know you can do. Do it for a month. When you've accomplished it, you'll feel like a million bucks.

　　并不是说像戒烟这样大的改变，只是一些小小的改变，像记下一些事情，或是每天提前十分钟起床，或是早晨起来时喝一杯水，诸如此类的一些你知道你可能做到的一些小事情。坚持一个月，当你完成的时候，就会仿佛赢了一百万美元般高兴。