5. Separate your expectations from those of your parents。

　　不要按着父母的期待生活。

　　Otherwise you wake up and realize you're not living your own life。

　　否则你醒来时会发现过的不是自己想要的生活。

　　6. Define success for yourself。

　　以自己为中心定义成功。

　　Society defines success very narrowly. Rather than defining success as financial gain or accolades, define it in terms of individual interests and personal happiness,"says Robbins。

　　社会将成功的概念定义得非常狭窄。与其将成功定义为金钱或者名望，还不如将成功定义为个人的兴趣和个人的满足感。

　　7. Learn to give a compliment。

　　学会赞美他人。

　　The best compliments are specific, so "good job" is not good. Practice on your professors. If you give a good compliment the recipient will think you're smarter: Big payoff in college, but bigger payoff in the work world。

　　最好的赞美要详细明确，笼统的一句“干得好”不算太有效。你可以拿你的教授来练习。如果你善于赞美他人，被赞美的人将会认定你是个聪明人：在校园里赞美他人会得到不错的回报，在职场中赞美他人会得到更多的回报。