宝贝不肯接受你的建议？也许是沟通方法出了问题哦！到底怎样说，宝贝才会听呢？今天，小E就和大家分享10个提建议的实用tips，掌握了这些，粑粑麻麻再也不怕宝贝不听话啦~
1.Begin with the word “I，” not “You” （which sounds judgmental）
用“我”开头，而不是“你”（“你”听起来更像是判断）。
2.Suggest rather than insist by saying something like， “I was thinking about。。。 and wondered if。。。。”
给出建议而不是顽固地坚持，说“我觉得。。。”
3.Ask a question rather than making a declarative statement。
E.g。 “What do you think of trying。。。”
用问句而不是判断句，比如“你觉得这样怎么样？”
4.Throw out a trial balloon by saying， “I had this idea that。。。”
先试探一下，说：“我想到一个主意。。。”
5.Offer choices。 In this way， you are making suggestions and giving advice but putting it in the other person‘s ballpark to choose from rather than being very pointed。
提供选择。通过这种方式来提建议，让别人选择而不是自己专断。
6.Remind the person that you speak because you care about their best interest。
让和你对话的那个人知道你是真心关心他的利益。
7.Suggest a future time frame by saying something like， “In the future you might want to consider。。。”
给未来留下机会。你可以说：“将来你可以考虑考虑。。。”
8.Demonstrate your belief in the other person， especially someone with wavering self-esteem： “I know you can try this if it feels right to you。。。”
表现出你对别人的信任，特别是对自尊心强的人，你可以说：“如果你觉得这么做没问题的话，不妨试试看。”
9.Offer to help： “I’d like to encourage you to try this， and maybe I can help by。。。”
提供帮助，“我希望你这样试试，也许我也能帮得上忙。”
10.Thank the person for trusting you to take your advice。 Be grateful that you have a relationship where you can share your ideas openly。
感谢信任你并接受你建议的人，感激你有可以分享自己想法的对象。
这些建议不仅对孩子很有效，也适用于成年人呢~粑粑麻麻不妨在家庭和工作中都试一试吧！
本文转自公众号EF英孚亲子口袋英语。
责任编辑：陈熙
