九大妙招：鼓励他们为自己成功欢呼

　　8 Hold back on negative criticism until they have made their own assessment. For example:"Do you think putting yourself down all the time is motivating you?" is better than saying:"You shouldn't put yourself down -- it doesn't help." Similarly:" Do you think you have lost interest partly because you are so tired?" is preferable to: " If you got to bed earlier, you would feel differently."

　　在他们做出自我估价之前，克制反面的批评。例如：“你认为总是灰心丧气会对你有什么帮助吗?”的说法比“你不该灰心丧气，这对你没有好处!”要好。同样：“难道你不觉得有时疲劳会使你失去兴趣吗?”就比“如果你早点睡觉，感觉就会不一样!”更可取。

　　9 Encourage them to revel in their successes--teach them that celebrating achievements can inspire others and that it can be done in a way that doesn't sound like bragging and doesn't make other people feel small. Don't forget that for developing self-motivation, it is more important to celebrate the smaller milestones than the major achievements--they are naturally more rewarding.

　　鼓励孩子为自己的成功欢呼雀跃——告诉他们庆贺自己的成就能够激励他人，做法可以既不夸耀自己也不贬低他人。记住，要发展自我激励意识，庆祝较小的进步比庆祝大成就更为重要——它们当然更有回报。

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