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¡¡¡¡Gerald and Miriam discuss the differences between the ways men and women ommunicate.

¡¡¡¡Miriam: Let¡¯s face it. Men and women have different needs and are motivated by different things.

¡¡¡¡Gerald: But this is business. Everyone should be focusing on what¡¯s best for the company.

¡¡¡¡Miriam: That¡¯s not what I¡¯m talking about. Men and women use language to different ends. Men use it to maintain their independence and their position in a group. Women use language to create intimacy.5

¡¡¡¡Gerald: I don¡¯t buy that. It sounds like a bunch of nonsense.

¡¡¡¡Miriam: Oh, yeah? You were complaining about Rhonda discussing problems with other people. It doesn¡¯t mean she¡¯s incapable of making decisions. It¡¯s just that her first priority is establishing relationships.

¡¡¡¡Gerald: And whenever I say something, I¡¯m trying to maintain my status?

¡¡¡¡Miriam: Sure. You make all your decisions solo. You don¡¯t want anyone else to be able to take credit for them. That would be a threat to your position.

¡¡¡¡Gerald: Well, my parents raised me to be competitive and outspoken.6

¡¡¡¡Miriam: While most girls are raised---consciously or unconsciously---to be demure7 and soft-spoken.

¡¡¡¡Gerald: But you don¡¯t fit that mold. You¡¯re as brash8 as any man---that¡¯s one of the things I love about you.

¡¡¡¡Miriam: Oh, you can thank my mother for that. There were no damsels in distress in any of my bedtime stories.