常厮守的奥秘：你的爱情亮红灯了吗(图)

恋爱和婚姻失败的共同点

　　More than a century ago, the Russian novelist Leo Tolstoy wrote, "Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."

　　一个多世纪以前，俄国小说家列夫·托尔斯泰写道，"幸福的家庭都是相似的，不幸的家庭各有各的不幸。"

　　The words have become immortalized, and the unhappy story of "Anna Karenina" is considered one of the greatest novels ever written. Recently, however, psychologists and sociologists are starting to question the observation.

　　这句话已成为不朽的名言，《安娜·卡列宁娜》的不幸遭遇则被认为是有史以来写得最好的一部小说之一。可是最近，心理学家和社会学家却开始质疑这一评价。"I think Tolstoy was totally wrong," said John Gottman, a professor of psychology at the University of Washington in Seattle. "Unhappy families are really similar to one another - there's much more variability among happy families."

　　"我认为托尔斯泰完全错了，"位于西雅图市华盛顿大学的心理学教授John Gottman说道。"不幸的家庭其实是彼此相似的，而幸福的家庭才各不相同。"

　　Gottman and others are trying to understand why as many as one in two marriages end in divorce, and why so many couples seem to fall out of love and break apart.

　　Gottman等人试图弄懂为何多达一半的婚姻都以

　　Some of the most revealing answers, it turns out, come from the couples who stay together.

　　研究表明一些最能说明问题的答案恰恰来自那些长相厮守的夫妻。