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啥时候生二胎才是最靠谱

啥时候生二胎才是最靠谱

　　Everyone asks me when I’m going to have babynumber two. My mother and father think it’s time. My mother-in-lawandfather-in-law think it’s time. Our neighbors and Stella’s revolving Chinesegrandparents think it’s time. In fact, it’s hard for me to leave the housethese days without being stopped by a random Chinese grandmother in ourcommunity to discuss the pros and cons of Baby 2.

　　好多人都问我什么时候给Stella生个弟弟或者妹妹。我的父母、公婆、邻居都觉得我该要第二个孩子了。事实上，这些天我出门工作都总被邻居家的奶奶拉住讨论生二胎的利弊。

　　My husband and I are conflicted. Baby 2 is in the future, definitely. (Possibly Baby 3, although my husband doesn’t know about that yet。) We look back on the first year of Stella’s life and remember the sleepless nights and the constant feedings. I remind my husband that he’d better be ready to take out the trash, do any heavy lifting,and bow to my every whim if I’m going to give birth to another baby- something that didn’t feel very good the first time around and I’m sure doesn’t get that much better the second。

　　我跟我丈夫在这个事情上观念并不一致。当然，我一定会有第二个孩子、第三个孩子甚至第四个孩子的。我跟丈夫会想起有Stella的第一年特别辛苦，没日没夜地照顾她。我跟丈夫说如果要生二胎他最好做好吃苦耐劳的准备，比如成堆的垃圾，干不完的体力活，还有我的各种“奇思妙想”。

　　Most parents who consider a second little bundle of joy have questions. What is the best age gap between children? Can timing reduce sibling rivalry and create a more harmonious family structure? Let’s turn to the experts to answer some common “tobaby or not to baby” questions。

　　想生二胎的粑粑麻麻有很多疑问。比如，第二个孩子跟第一个孩子差多少岁最好？孩子多了如何构建和谐的家庭氛围？让我们看看专家怎么说。

　　两年之内利弊 Less Than 2 Years Apart:

　　Pros- If you can embrace the intensity and chaos that will inevitably follow a two babies in two years, you may be rewarded within a year or so with kids who entertain each other well and are nicely in sync when it comes to toys and activities.Children born very close together can sometimes form an unbreakable bond。

　　利 如果你能适应两年之内生第二个孩子带来的所有紧张和混乱，那么你在生完的一年之内就可以享受两个孩子带来的天伦之乐。年龄相仿使他们能分享玩具一起玩游戏。孩子之间的情感纽带会更强。

　　Cons- Money. The benefit of spacing out children is that it allows some time for your wallet and bank account to recover. You can also expect to be in child overdrive. All of those potty accidents, temper tantrums, and sleepless nights double with the addition of a baby two。

　　弊 经济负担。生孩子价格不菲，而且会让你体力透支。突发事件，莫名的情绪，不眠之夜都会加倍到来。

　　两到四年内生二胎 2 to 4 Years Apart：

　　Pros- With your older child heading off for a day of kindergarten fun, you'll get the freedom to bond with your new baby. Siblings are still close enough in age that they enjoy the same kind of toys and games. This may also be a good move career-wise, as it allows for some working time between pregnancies。

　　利 大一点的孩子已经上幼儿园了，这样一来你将有更多时间照顾你的小孩子。孩子们年龄上也不会相差太远，还是可以分享玩具一起做游戏。这也是不错的选择，在生二胎之前你还有一点时间可以工作。

　　Cons- A first bornchild who is accustomed to all of the attention may feel resentful when the new baby is introduced into the mix. By quickly showing the older child how toproperly treat and take care of the new baby, firstborn children can better adapt to the new addition. Constantly saying “no” may be seen as taking the newbaby’s side and foster more jealously。

　　弊 第一个孩子已经习惯了爸妈把所有注意力放到他身上，所以第二个孩子的到来会让他感到不受重视了。要好好引导老大接受和照顾弟弟妹妹。如果经常拒绝老大的一些请求会增重孩子之间的火药味哦

　　五年之后再生 5 Years Apart or More:

　　Pros- Many parents with children of this age gap feel that taking five or more years between pregnancies is the easiest on a marriage. You’re smarter and more confident as a couple, able to handle the rigors of parenting while still making time to besure your marriage is healthy and happy. The older child is also more mature and may accept the role as “baby helper” with a sense of pride。

　　利 很多五年之后再生第二个孩子的家庭通常认为在婚姻里这是最合理的方式。一方面，父母更加成熟自信了，也更能灵活应对家庭生活的种种琐事。第一个孩子也可以更成熟地照顾弟弟妹妹。

　　Cons- With a big age gap, it may be difficult for children to become close friends. For example, a six year old is starting elementary school and no longer interested in “baby things” like playing blocks or going down the little slide on the playground.The return to diapers may be a shock to the system for the adults in the house also。

　　弊 年龄差别大了，两个孩子可能不如同龄人亲密。例如，一个六岁的孩子开始准备上小学，他就不再对小孩子的玩意感兴趣啦。对家里的大人来说，清理孩子的尿布说不定又成为一件大事了。

【文章作者：VIPKID课程研发主管Lane】